How To Avoid Being Part Of The Divorce Rate

There are many statistics that reflect the rising growth of divorces amongst married couples. Some websites and authorities on divorce rates actually list the divorce rate percentages of many countries. These percentages vary between 70% to under 10%.

Divorce is a legal separation or dissolution of a marriage between two individuals. Divorce proceedings are not specific to certain cultures or countries. In addition, individually speaking, a person’s religious beliefs, ethnicity, social standing, etc. does not make a couple’s marital union safe from the discord of divorce.To avoid being part of the growing divorce rate, it is important that couples work at their marriage to main the strength of their union. Two specific areas that can cause marital strife, if not given the proper attention, are in the areas of communication and money. Therefore, to avoid being a statistical part of the divorce rate it is important to develop these two key areas in a relationship.ivorce Rate

Communication

Communication is a cornerstone in building a successful relationship. Communication between married couples can be defined as the sharing of thoughts, feelings, a touch, a look, etc.In addition to these features of communication another important component of a successful marriage is listening to one another. This listening aspect of communication is a multi-faceted discipline to ensure that the marriage does not become another statistic that adds to the divorce rate.Listening can be defined as the full attention given to the spouse when they are speaking. In order to perform this discipline properly, it is important not to formulate your response before the marital partner has finished their thought. Also, listening accepts the individual’s thought and does not place a judgment on that expression. The listening partner simply accepts that thought and thereby honors the expression of their partner. In addition, a listening skill that is developed hears not only what the other person is saying, but what the marital partner is not saying.MoneyAn additional area in a marriage that can negatively impact the relationship and add to the divorce rate is the handling of money or finances in the home. Often partners hide money, spend excessively, or don’t spend at all. Also, there may be incidences where either partner spends impulsively with secret credit cards. These actions can not only negatively impact the finances of the couple, but can lead to significant financial problems.Of course, the core issue is not so much the money that is spent, but speaks to a trust issue. If there is considerable secrecy surrounding the finances between a married couple the trust between the two individuals erodes. This resulting erosion eats at the trust fibers between the couple resulting in mistrust and the nagging questions.

The World of Divorce Rates

Divorce laws vary from state to state and country to country. Even within Europe there are vast differences in the laws. It would appear that there are direct correlations between the frequency of divorce, the divorce rate, and the ease of which a divorce may occur. This may not be a good thing, as divorce rates in some developing nations are low because the concept of a woman rejecting the man chosen for them is not acceptable. What is not often discussed is that the divorce rate in civilized societies has remained stable, although not the same, for many years.

European Divorce Rates

In Europe, twenty-two nations participate in the Commission for European Family Law. Many of these countries have mandatory waiting periods before a divorce is final and even some have mandatory counseling that must be attended prior to finalization. Both of these factors may contribute to the reduction of the divorce rate in Europe, as compared to the United States. In addition, it may be that much of the mainland Europe is Catholic or Orthodox Christian in their upbringing and beliefs. In such societies divorce is considered a last resort, and not the solution to a series of seemingly minor disagreements and dissatisfaction with the relationship. Divorce rates in countries such as Italy are historically lower than in the rest of Europe.

Rate Computation

Unfortunately, in most countries the divorce rate calculations do not include legal separations, or multiple family marriages, or partnerships where there is no correlation to the real-life situation. Calculation of divorce rates in the developing nations most likely does not include the correct data. It is highly probable that not all of the African nations have an accurate method of reporting on the divorce rates, other than in certain more populous locations. In many of these countries,marriage and divorce are not used in the same way that the western world uses the terms. Therefore, relationships or partnerships are entered into and dissolved much more frequently, and without ceremony or legal interaction.

Statistics and Life

The divorce rate is one of those overused statistics that attempts to describe the condition of a society. As we all know, individuals are not statistics. Divorce rates in particular do not represent the state of a nation. All statistics such as birth rate, death rate and the divorce rate should be considered only within context. Context could include whether the country is at war, the regional climate and major events that may have influenced any of these particular rating systems.

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Divorce rate linked to women working: European survey shows more British marriages end in failure HELEN NOWICKA.

Tuesday, 22 June 1993

BRITAIN has the highest divorce rate in Europe and women are following the continental trend of having their first child in their late twenties, according to a new study.

The report into European lifestyles by the market and consumer research group Mintel depicts a Community that still has far to go before it can be described as united, despite sharing more similarities than in the past. For the study, Mintel analysed 7,356 interviews conducted by NOP with adults in Britain, France, Germany, Italy, the Netherlands, Spain and Belgium, whose combined 316 million inhabitants account for 93 per cent of the EC’s population. Between 1990 and last year, 390,000 marriages took place in Britain and 170,000 couples divorced - more than in any European country. In Germany, which has a population one-third greater, there were 516,000 weddings but just 155,000 divorces. Researchers believe that the high British divorce rate - one for every 2.3 marriages - is because the nation has the highest proportion of working women in Europe, so wives have more financial independence.

Also, divorces are easier to obtain than in traditionally Roman Catholic countries such as Spain, where the lowest rate of one for every 9.6 marriages was recorded. Marriage break-ups have contributed to the growth of single-person households, which now account for 26 per cent of all British homes. Other contributory factors are an ageing population and a growing trend for young people to delay marrying. Women throughout Europe are waiting until their late twenties to have their first child, varying from 26.3 years in Spain to 29.2 years in the Netherlands. Precise figures for the mother’s age when her first child is born do not exist in the UK but the average is within this range.

Peter Ayton, head of research at Mintel, said that the trend is because of increased use of birth control, couples waiting to marry, the increase in the number of working women and the cost of bringing up children. Predicted demographic changes in Britain are expected to mirror those in Europe. In both cases, the age group which will rise the most rapidly up to 1997 is 45 to 54, while the number between 15 and 24 will decline. Mr Ayton said that the combined effect of a growing elderly population coupled with the recession and the demands of the Maastrict treaty will put increased pressure on European governments of all political persuasions to control public expenditure and increase taxes, particularly through indirect means.

‘The result will be a widening of the gap between those who rely on state benefits and those who don’t. The gap between those who are in work and the unemployed will grow as will that between people reliant on state pensions and private pensions,’ he said. In all European countries there is a move from rural and inner-city areas into mid-sized towns. Overall, standard of living is improving and ownership of housing, consumer durables and private transport is increasing.

Mintel employs about 50 permanent staff and has an annual turnover of pounds 5m. The London-based firm commissions market research then analyses the results. It annually publishes about 30 special reports such as European Lifestyles 1993 - one of its most ambitious projects to date - as well as preparing 300 surveys a year for corporate clients. European Lifestyles 1993 comprises two pan-European reports - ‘Quality of Life in Europe’ and ‘European Purchasing and Consumption’; price of individual reports available on 071 606 6000; price of all 16 vols, pounds 6,660.

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